The only way to control spaghettification (surely my favourite scientific term) is to be able to control the force of gravity within a localised area i.e. have some sort of field or bubble that keeps your ship at 1G as you approach the event horizon.If you can do that you probably don't need all that tedious mucking about with black holes anyway, because if you can do that you can do pretty much anything.

IIRC in the Star Trek universe, the PSB for FTL travel is they don't actually go faster than light, they use a localised effect field to increase the speed of light in the immediate volume of space around the ship, thus allowing it to travel faster than C without breaking 'the rule'. If you can produce localised gravity, you can probably pull that trick as well.