I think you'll find that 2 to 3 years is a relatively rapid turnaround for this sort of thing, consider the process so far:
First you have to investigate to find out if your patent has actually been infringed, this requires technical and legal experts to draw up reports. these reports are written by teams of engineers and lawyers, so that's probably your first year down the drain. Then you have to try to resolve the dispute by offering licensing terms to the infringing party. Then they have to hire expert legal and technical teams to draw up reports to say they aren't infringing. If they are still worried you will sue, they trawl through all their own patents to see if they have anything to hit you back with (more reports). Then they look for prior art (additional reports). Then, when they are ready to go to court and defend themselves, that's when they tell you to stick your licensing terms up your bum. Then you issue a press release to tell everyone you are suing them.