I'll pitch em up, you whack* 'em out of the park.


*JV bait.

There needs to be a rule against Baseball sayings

Nick, while I agree that the specifics of what's happened to you (ie the cash) aren't right, as a singleton gadabout who finds himself married with a child, I'd just point out that it becomes very difficult to keep up with old friends and maintain a family life.

There are so many people that I suddenly think, "[LIFTED], I haven't seen that person in three years" and would dearly love to catch up with, but it all seems impossible to fit in. I guess it's all part of getting older.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I doubt he's forgotten about you, but has to concentrate on the here and now. The good thing about true friends is that you're there for each other when it all goes tits up!

Marriage: n. The process by which a woman goes about getting rid of a man's friends whilst keeping her own.

hm, something thats increasingly bugging me, my foreign friend who I was good friends with I used to let him borrow £80 from me, I got it back, then few months later he saw my account and wanted to borrow about £2000 from me and promised he would pay me back, (I refused) and not long after that I went with him in shops as he wanted a tv stand, he didnt have enough money so I lent him £50 -.- now after months I still havent got this cash back and I keep asking but its always "ill get it next week" so has anyone any idea how to forcefully get this cash back? Im considering holding him at gunpoint and demand

Perhaps you could suggest paying it back in instalments? Say £10 a week? Or half this month and half next month?

Tell him you need it for christmas and, quite frankly, he's taking the piss now.

You old cynic - some truth in that though!

Husband: n. A man with pictures in his wallet where his cash used to be.

I'd echo that.

I have friends who've gotten married and had kids. We're still friends, but I never see them because their lives are so damned hectic they simply don't have the time. It's not that I'm not important to them; it's just that their kids and wives are more important, more needy and right there in their faces 24 / 7!!


I must have heard it before, but it raised a smile and no doubt I'll be repeating it

I am still friends with a few very good friends from many years ago. There have been some who I will know longer have any dealings with because of what they have done. One kept chasing my girlfriends so prefer not to have anything to do with them. They wanted to get back in touch but I cut them dead. The other was a complete scumbag, and TBH should be in gaol for sexually assaulting his therapy clients. So better off without them anyway.

I have a saying that friends come and go but enemies accumulate. So I avoid making enemies and prefer to walk away from people who might be trouble in future.

Nick, I feel your pain. A guy I've known since 93 (at school) was one of my best mates and was boyfriend to a girl I'd known the same length of time. They were together for 9yrs! Then one day in summer 09 he dumped her by text. Nice. Hadn't spoken to me about it at all. I had no idea. She called me in bits and he never even spoke to me. He got with somebody from work instantly, removed my from Facebook, forgot my birthday and a year later, with no further comms I hear he's bought a house with her and just got engaged. His best man (another kid we went to school with) announced it to the world on Facebook two days ago. It's a shame, because we were always close and shared a lot of interests. I've had some great times with him over the years, but I guess that's how it is.



Could all the marrieds on here please actually explain this to me? How hard is it really to pick up the phone, meet for a beer occasionally or whatever? I would honestly like to understand, if you can help me to.

You don't have to be married to be into someone so much that everything and everyone else falls by the wayside. It's also not just about finding the time as there may be other issues such as compatability, distance, jealousy and trust that also have to be accounted for.

It isn't hard at all.

Most people are lazy - being married just gives you an excuse.

I generally prefer meeting up with people and having 'quality time' with them than picking up the phone. My friends live all over the country and whereas I used to be able to jump in my car and bugger off for the weekend, I can't any more. It's hardly fair to leave my wife at home on her own with the baby while I'm out getting hammered in some random city.

I certainly see the friends of mine who live locally a lot. Once a week for skittles in the winter and cricket in the summer. Plus I occasionally go out for a beer after work with some of them and there are always events that we both go to. But for those who live more than half an hour away it's not easy.

One of my childhood friends who I lived with in London now lives in Lancashire and has a wife and kid of his own. We're planning to go and stay, but it's an eight hour drive on a good day and requires quite a bit of planning. A far cry from four years ago when I would have jumped in the car and slept on the floor.

It's a choice I made when I chose to settle down.