Nothing to judge, nothing to comment on

If you ever want to sleep with lots of women, take a year off and go backpacking (not that i did, but I could have done, I have this weird feeling mostly that it's really boring if I don't really like the girl... that changes when single and drunk during a dry spell, but I have no desire to sleep around if I'm in a relationship, the emotional attachment is enough to keep me happy/satisfied).

Indeed, what's the point of a relationship if you sleep around?

I think I want to clarify, when I was single I never saw one night stands as something to aim for to get notches on the bedpost - they happened because you can meet some people who you bond with and have a great time with from the get go so why the hell not?

I didn't make enough of an effort in the last 20 years. When I did, it was infrequent and frankly got me nowhere.
There have been a few good women kind enough to sleep with me, and now I'm stuck thinking I completely wasted that golden period of life in your late teens/early twenties when you're in your prime.
Now I'm 35, the jeans I wore 5 years ago don't fit and I live in parents basement. Yes, I am that stereotype, and let me tell you, that's a tough sell.
I find it hard to make emotional attachments to people.
So to all of you who have the opportunity, I recommend seizing it firmly with both hands.
Or, go out and find a partner. For one night, for several. Who really cares? Enjoy yourself; it's later than you think.

At work today, I was tweaking a sex ed film 'Use condoms - They're great!' or something.
In it, the stringy youth was embarrassed about buying condoms.
I don't understand this. You should approach the counter with pride and give the assistant a warm smile and bathe in the knowledge that you are getting some while others are not.
Be grateful.
And, perhaps, be generous.

Give her a wink, and you may get a quick knee-trembler by the fire exit behind the bins. You never know your luck.

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In the 1980s, and I mean the early/mid 1980s, we were told in sex education classes that you had to write down your wish to buy condoms, and that in the box would be a printed note that you could use the next time. So condoms were regarded then as a rather shameful thing to buy. It impacts on your outlook on such things. The teacher doing the class was a fully paid up vicar, and he had an agenda in a number of places. Sex was for procreation, not fun or enjoyment.

Anyhow, 1980s - contraceptives were a bit stigmatised, and then AIDS hit. It took a few years, but all of a sudden condoms weren’t some shameful thing to buy, but something that showed that you were thinking about you and your partner’s health. They became far more than a way to stop babies from happening.

</history lesson>

I think Paul has probably hit on something indirectly. I suspect most of the people who lived through the AIDS campaigns of the late 80's may have a different view on one night stands to those who came before or significantly after. There's a world of difference between a one night stand that might be a bit of fun and a one night stand that was basically a game of russian roulette but worse. AIDS was pretty scary [LIFTED] back then, and people weren't as clued up about it as they are now.

Hell, I'm sure some people saw those ads and pretty much decided never to touch another human being ever again . I was 18 in 1987, I was pretty much centre of the storm. I got through it by educating myself so I knew what the risks actually were and by being very careful, but it certainly was at the back of everyone's minds.

Jon

Indeed, the growth of the human population has halved since the 60s, so something must have been putting people off!. (or they started to put something on more accurately)

Having worked in Boots at the airport I am now not embarrassed about buying condoms. My new threshold for being a bit jumpy (hypothetically) would be purchasing personal lube and a vibrating cock ring, which many men seem quite pleased about buying.

Perverts the lot of em, always in their 50s with tickets for Amsterdam.

*giggles*