i dont think its particularly just me shes upset about losing, her exact words, once the crying from both of us had stopped, were "ive just gotten used to being around people, now i have to go through all that again?". she wasnt particularly sociable before we started seeing each other, then i started dragging her out to a few gigs and parties, and she really enjoyed herself. so i think its more that that shes upset about losing. im really not that great a boyfriend (just in case things i have already said didnt put that across ), just happen to be rather well-connected within the school society

and Girl A didnt exactly "come from nowhere", we've been close friends for as long as ive been social (i used to be an utter hermit too, in fact so did Girl A, we even had a club about it ) and ive always had a thing for her, seeing her this weekend and reading through our old convos just stirred up a few feelings for her i thought were gone, but... well apparently not

My brain is too tired to do the conversion but I was in a 300(ish) mile relationship and, as Frenchy says, it can work if you're both serious about it.

Did it work for me? Well, I'm still married to her, so I'm guessing yes... so far!

Same, did the long distance with my girlfriend during my placement, was ~350 miles and we made it work for us

Soddit - I hope reading the other guys posts will help you realise that long distance relationships can work. It requires effort from both sides and if you're not serious and committed to the relationship then in the end I guess it'll probably crumble.

Seeing Girl A and reading the old chats etc was always going to bring up old feelings - but that's life. What would you do if Girl A was out of the question now? If she had a boyfriend or had moved far away? I know that isn't the situation, but thinking like that may help to take her out of the situation.

It's probably also worth remembering that you've never dated Girl A and even though you've been close friends, in my experience taking it to the next level isn't always easy, especially after that period of friendship.

I think you've said you wouldn't leave Girl B just to chase Girl A, so what is there to worry about? If you and Girl B work out, will you be able to forget about Girl A? (Or least be happy with Girl B and have no regrets?) If you don't think so, then has the relationship you already have really got any future anyway?

Just my bit of rubbish, but thought I would try and give you some more to think about. (Not that you need it! )

You may find that relationships work better if you refer to the girls by their real names.

/JV and all that.

argh not sure what to make of this etc but its been ages since I saw the girl I dated at the cafe the one I fancy like mad, As I miracously havn't given up despite I cant get hold of her at her workplace, texting or phoning her etc, today I took an eccentric family member to see donkeys in a farm field. Stopped by the town the girl works in (the place I most hang out in most days) and walked past her work assuming she wasn't in as usual. Walked past and there she was adrenalin shot to the roof and felt really panicky and jumpy, didn't know what to do so I just walked straight in, she wasnt dealing with any customers, and no customers were in the workplace atall. Had to concentrate not to stutter too much as the adrenalin was pumping really wild Asked her if it was possible to meet up again and that ive been trying to get hold of her and she said that she was driving when I did try phone her(?) she suggested to me to go to the pub next week, of course I said yes so she said she will text me or me to text her or phone but I asked if it was ok if I phoned her sometime and said that was fine Really panicky incase I mess this up, I really really need to ask her out etc, What if she drinks alcohol and I drink? If I do drink im such a lightweight and might spill too many beans if that makes sense? or what if I drink a little bit and ask her out she will just think its the drink talking???? arghhhhhh

I remember some ppl here saying I shoudnt ask her in workplace and thats exactly what I havn't done but it should be ok? as she immediatly suggested the pub thing and I didn't take long atall etc

Seriously

I suspect my better half is about to vanish into Salisbury for the next 12 months. Given that I have no money with which to travel, and as of yet no idea if/where my IY is going to be, this means long periods of time without seeing her. By comparison, 3 weeks over Easter - despite furious texting often pushing 80 per day - had me about ready to butcher small animals. And my sister. >.<

I think the Land Rover fund is going to be scrapped in favour of the Weasels-Petrol-Fund. And I need some new front tyres pronto.

It's too late/early for clever post editing, so I'll just answer your points in order

I know long-distance relationships can work for some people, whether or not it'd work for for me is another matter. We will definitely give it a try, but I'm a little pessimistic to say the least. We see each other at every opportunity (about 3-4 times a week since Sixth Form ended), and I don't know if we will be able to carry on the same without that. It is worth a shot though, of course.

If Girl A weren't an option, I'd still be considering the pros and cons of staying with Girl B, especially given the uncertainty of my future at the moment. Whether or not we'd have the money to see each other as much as we'd like is a big sticking point at the minute: she's skint from uni costs, and I haven't got a job lined up yet

The worry is that, although I wouldn't leave Girl B for Girl A, I still have pretty strong feelings for her. To be honest, I can see myself having regrets either way, but if things work out with Girl B, I will definitely be happy with that, and try my hardest to make sure it works out But the same could be said for Girl A too.

The level of rubbishness in a post is subjective, this is the sort of thing I need to be thinking about right now, so thanks Sorry about not replying for ages, exams and whatnot only finished last week Same goes to everyone else who made suggestions earlier that I haven't replied to, I have read all your posts and will try to act on your advice Might type out some replies to other psots tomorrow, if I'm awake


On a related note, I will be going to see Girl A some time soon to do some computer repairs and stuff (typical ). I doubt anything will happen, but if I do accidentally (or purposefully) say something stupid I will make an anxious "HALPZ!! what do I do!?!?!" post here as soon as I get home

Just a quick one from me.

Long distance relationships can work for some people, they absolutely don't work for me. There's no shame in admitting that you can't keep a connection or things in common with your SO if they're doing everything miles away and sharing it with other people. For me, common ground and shared experience is as important a part of the relationship as 'Love' or some form of it. If I never get to spend time with the person and have to hear about their life through letters and phonecalls then it just doesn't work.

YMMV

I would say, in my experience, that 8/10 relationships fail when one partner goes off to uni.

They go through the whole freshers thing, pasting photos up on facebook and the bf/gf almost always ends up getting jealous and/or suspicious.

It is definitely, but as Nick has said, I know plenty of people that have struggled when one (or both) of them have gone off to uni. The jealously thing is huge but there's also the lack of communication and time together. I had friends who were living together then when one went off to uni they found it hard spending so much time apart. The chap who stayed home worked and carried on as normal; the girl was out nearly every night, partying and (as mentioned)



I think you're not the only person how feels like that about things. I'm never really sure if I ever make the right decision about anything, but at some point you have to just accept that that's life and go with it



Yeah, keep us updated, God knows we love reading up about all this stuff, It makes the days more interesting!

Also, don't worry about the slowness of replies, I live on the other side of the world, and pop on and off so don't really notice.

Geri Halliwell is in the celeb news concerning a bust up with her boyfriend. Have a look at the three pics below....have you ever seen such a wonderfully narrative sequence where the story is so economically told. Once you're in a relationship the trick is to stay in it! Don't forget that women have a third eye in the back of their heads.







Good luck mate!!

Frankly, if the woman you're with is so utterly insecure and paranoid that you just looking at another woman is enough to start a row, you're better off out.