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| Author: | Geiseric [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 7:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Right only a few weeks until my sister gets married and she has asked me to give her away and so far I haven’t managed anything towards a speech. I hate making speeches and normally go red as a beetroot when centre of attention so any hints and tips would be grateful from my forum buddies This what I was thinking – Welcome and thanks guest Welcome the groom into the family Talk about the bride with a story or two My thoughts on a successful marriage (cough…) Toast Sit back down and start enjoying myself |
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| Author: | jonbwfc [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 9:47 am ] | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Yes, but keep it clean.  .
Again, diplomacy would seem the better option..
I believe it's also customary for the FotB (who you are standing in for) to thank the caterers and whichever-religious-or-not-official who is overseeing the formal wedding procedure. Jon |
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| Author: | cloaked_wolf [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 11:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Keep it short. I've always hated speeches that go on and on. Part of the problem is that they're given by people who tend not to give speeches in working life and hence don't have the ability to keep it punchy. |
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| Author: | hifidelity2 [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 11:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Dont forget to - Thank anyone who has helped out inc Bridesmaids, Mother in law, etc and if as you say you are not a comfortable speaker then keep it short. One tip is to practise it out loud a few times so that you get comfortable with saying the words. If I have to give a big presentation at work thats what I do so by the time I come to give the speech I hardly need to read my Q cards and can concentrate of the actual delivery |
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| Author: | cloaked_wolf [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 11:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Aye - practise, practise, practise. |
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| Author: | Amnesia10 [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 12:13 pm ] | ||||||||||||||||||
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No mentioning of her sexual exploits with the rugby team or similar.
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| Author: | l3v1ck [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 12:30 pm ] | |||||||||
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Keep it short. No point in stressing yourself. When I did my wedding speach, I just had an A4 sheet with bullet points (large font) of the areas I wanted to cover. That way it wouldn't sound aweful as I wouldn't be trying to read the entire thing off a piece of paper. It worked well, but here was just one small hiccup. I forgot to put my wife down as a bullet point so I didn't mention her in the speech. We both (or more specifically SHE) only noticed a month or two later when we watched the wedding DVD. |
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| Author: | rustybucket [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 2:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
I've always tended to avoid stories because they're seldom short, exciting or funny enough for inclusion. Also something that is special between you and your sister will probably lose quite a lot in translation when you try to tell others - the old "You had to be there" factor. So this is how, over the years, I've found it works best - if you write it out, practise beforehand, speak clearly and take your time you should be bang on 3 minutes. Much longer and everyone will want to kill you. (Eek! Just realised I've been Groom, Best Man, Groomsman, Brother otB and acting FotB  )
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| Author: | timark_uk [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 2:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Try to avoid telling her that it could very well end in heartbreak, sorrow, bitterness and pain. Steer clear of those things and you'll (probably) be okay. Mark |
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| Author: | Geiseric [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 3:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Wow cheers for the feedback and advice everybody Thanks Jim for the pointers, just what I needed and very useful to build my speech around. |
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| Author: | JJW009 [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 8:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Good Luck! |
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| Author: | big_D [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 4:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
Make a small joke at the beginning, to break the ice. If you can get a small laugh, when you start, it makes the whole thing easier. I was best man at my brother's wedding and started with "I feel naked up here today, without my PowerPoints." Enough people laughed, that I relaxed and I did the rest of the speech from memory, without looking at the bullet points I had printed out. I came over much more natural. Also, with the stories, they should be amusing, if possible, but not embarassing (or not too embarassing), it is her day, so you don't want to ruin it for her. I said that my brother was a lucky git and always came up smelling of roses - then gave a couple of examples, like the time he took the kids he was looking after (he was an au pair in America) climbing on the rocks along the coast. He knocked the smallest one in the water, but quickly fished him back out again. If that had been you or me, the kid would have told the parents "David knocked me off the rocks into the water!" But with Richard, the kid ran into the house screaming, "mummy, mummy! I fell of the rocks and Richard saved me!" It is an amusing story, not too embarassing and makes everybody feel good. Talking about the time she borrowed dad's car and left her knickers in the glove box is probably not the sort of story that you want to tell at the wedding, at the hen night maybe, but not at the wedding! 
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| Author: | ProfessorF [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 6:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
I did a Best Man speech for a friend. The biggest tip someone gave me was that it is the easiest audience you'll ever have. Everyone in that room is on your side. And as Dave says, there's a line you shouldn't cross with the stories. Hint at others, by all means, but know the mark. |
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| Author: | HeatherKay [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 8:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
If you can, try not to read from a script. It usually leads to stumbling, getting lost, and when you keep looking at a sheet of paper you lose contact with the audience. Get yourself some index cards and write memory-joggers on them. It'll help you seem more spontaneous and natural when you glance down and launch into things. It'll also help if you suddenly remember on the day a story perhaps isn't apt after all, when you can skip that card and still carry on. And don't forget to rehearse a couple of times at least. You have to stumble through, make corrections and edit stuff that doesn't work. Repeat until you feel comfortable with what you're trying to say. Of course you'll be nervous when you stand up, but take a deep breath, compose yourself, and set off. Once you're in the swing, and the audience is on your side, you'll be off and running. Finally, keep it as short as possible without making it seem like you're rushing it. |
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| Author: | Paul1965 [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 9:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Father of the bride speech (Brother of the bride) |
There's also the option of using a digital camera to record your read-throughs so you can see how you come across. |
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