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Author:  Fogmeister [ Thu Apr 07, 2011 11:40 pm ]
Post subject:  To go or not to go?
I've been invited to a friends wedding this weekend (well actually to the reception).

The guy is a friend from school and I've maybe seen him 4 or 5 times in the past 10 years.

Normally I wouldn't question whether to go but the reception is in Durham which is about 1:45 drive away. I can't afford any accommodation and I'm struggling to afford the month as it is without spending £30 on petrol to get there.

Is it very bad to call/text to say that I'm sorry but can't go? I really would like to go but at the same time I really can't afford to.
Author:  rustybucket [ Thu Apr 07, 2011 11:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
It's not bad form at all.

In fact it would be a rare example of good form in that a guest hasn't just not turned up.
Author:  vdbswong [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 1:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
If i was still up in Durham i'd say that you could crash at mine... but i graduated last year ;>.
Author:  John_Vella [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 7:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
I'd just tell him that something had cropped up and you can't make it, but you'll visit as soon as you can.
Author:  Geiseric [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 7:35 am ]
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Send a card and your apologies
Author:  brataccas [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 11:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
doesnt seem a close friend so stuff him I say

IMO :oops:
Author:  John_Vella [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
brataccas wrote:
doesnt seem a close friend so stuff him I say

IMO :oops:


You don't have to see someone every day or every week for them to be a good friend.

Just saying is all.
Author:  timark_uk [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
John_Vella wrote:
brataccas wrote:
doesnt seem a close friend so stuff him I say

IMO :oops:
You don't have to see someone every day or every week for them to be a good friend.
While that is very true, if they were a very good friend then Oli wouldn't be here debating if he should go or not.

Mark
Author:  Amnesia10 [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
timark_uk wrote:
John_Vella wrote:
brataccas wrote:
doesnt seem a close friend so stuff him I say

IMO :oops:
You don't have to see someone every day or every week for them to be a good friend.
While that is very true, if they were a very good friend then Oli wouldn't be here debating if he should go or not.

Mark

It would depend on funds. Everyone is finding things tight and if he went a pressie would definitely be required.
Author:  timark_uk [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
If they were very good friends Oli would've been invited to the ceremony.
I'm guessing this is just a mate (or good mate at most).

Mark
Author:  belchingmatt [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 1:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
How much money is behind the bar?

Just kidding. :P
Author:  Fogmeister [ Fri Apr 08, 2011 1:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
timark_uk wrote:
If they were very good friends Oli would've been invited to the ceremony.
I'm guessing this is just a mate (or good mate at most).

Mark

Exactamundo.
Author:  brataccas [ Sat Apr 09, 2011 5:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
John_Vella wrote:
You don't have to see someone every day or every week for them to be a good friend.

Just saying is all.


he is nearly 2 hours drive away, definitely not a close friend ;)
Author:  ProfessorF [ Tue Apr 12, 2011 1:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
In a similar position.
Girl that I've mentioned before just texted me with the date for her wedding to a guy I really don't like or trust.
So, in a combination of 'it should've been me' and 'i trust a politician more than him', I'm wondering what to do.
Do I smile politely?
Or do a 'graduate' during the ceremony? :lol:
Author:  vdbswong [ Tue Apr 12, 2011 1:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: To go or not to go?
ProfessorF wrote:
In a similar position.
Girl that I've mentioned before just texted me with the date for her wedding to a guy I really don't like or trust.
So, in a combination of 'it should've been me' and 'i trust a politician more than him', I'm wondering what to do.
Do I smile politely?
Or do a 'graduate' during the ceremony? :lol:


Guess it depends on what direction you want to go in.

Either you go because you want to support her, be a friend etc. (you definitely don't want the "i'm a friend", "but you weren't even at my wedding" comment hanging over your head).

Or you just don't go and do the whole moving on/trying to forget about her route.
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