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Fogmeister
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:35 pm
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Location: Getting there
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I've been invited to a friends wedding this weekend (well actually to the reception).
The guy is a friend from school and I've maybe seen him 4 or 5 times in the past 10 years.
Normally I wouldn't question whether to go but the reception is in Durham which is about 1:45 drive away. I can't afford any accommodation and I'm struggling to afford the month as it is without spending £30 on petrol to get there.
Is it very bad to call/text to say that I'm sorry but can't go? I really would like to go but at the same time I really can't afford to.
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| Thu Apr 07, 2011 11:40 pm |
 
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rustybucket
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Jun 18, 2009 5:10 pm
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It's not bad form at all.
In fact it would be a rare example of good form in that a guest hasn't just not turned up.
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| Thu Apr 07, 2011 11:43 pm |
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vdbswong
Doesn't have much of a life
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:56 pm
Posts: 603
Location: Durham, UK
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If i was still up in Durham i'd say that you could crash at mine... but i graduated last year ;>.
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John_Vella
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 7:55 am
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Location: Manchester.
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I'd just tell him that something had cropped up and you can't make it, but you'll visit as soon as you can.
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Geiseric
Doesn't have much of a life
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 10:35 pm
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Location: Ipswich
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Send a card and your apologies
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brataccas
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 9:14 pm
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Location: Scotland
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doesnt seem a close friend so stuff him I say IMO  _________________
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| Fri Apr 08, 2011 11:26 am |
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John_Vella
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 7:55 am
Posts: 7935
Location: Manchester.
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You don't have to see someone every day or every week for them to be a good friend. Just saying is all. _________________John Vella BSc (Hons), PGCE - Still the official forum prankster and crude remarker Sorry I'll behave now. Promise
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timark_uk
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Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 6:11 pm
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Location: Belfast
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While that is very true, if they were a very good friend then Oli wouldn't be here debating if he should go or not. Mark
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Amnesia10
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It would depend on funds. Everyone is finding things tight and if he went a pressie would definitely be required. _________________Do concentrate, 007... "You are gifted. Mine is bordering on seven seconds." https://www.dropbox.com/referrals/NTg5MzczNTkhttp://astore.amazon.co.uk/wwwx404couk-21
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timark_uk
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If they were very good friends Oli would've been invited to the ceremony.
I'm guessing this is just a mate (or good mate at most).
Mark
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| Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:58 pm |
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belchingmatt
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri May 15, 2009 3:16 am
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Location: Middle Earth
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How much money is behind the bar? Just kidding.
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Fogmeister
I haven't seen my friends in so long
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Location: Getting there
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brataccas
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 9:14 pm
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Location: Scotland
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he is nearly 2 hours drive away, definitely not a close friend _________________
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ProfessorF
What's a life?
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:56 pm
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In a similar position. Girl that I've mentioned before just texted me with the date for her wedding to a guy I really don't like or trust. So, in a combination of 'it should've been me' and 'i trust a politician more than him', I'm wondering what to do. Do I smile politely? Or do a 'graduate' during the ceremony? 
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vdbswong
Doesn't have much of a life
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:56 pm
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Location: Durham, UK
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Guess it depends on what direction you want to go in. Either you go because you want to support her, be a friend etc. (you definitely don't want the "i'm a friend", "but you weren't even at my wedding" comment hanging over your head). Or you just don't go and do the whole moving on/trying to forget about her route.
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