For the record, that is a categorically incorrect statement.

I'll refer you to my early post. "The chase" is endemic to our biological programming. Not to mention the fact that being "a good person" usually gets you absolutely nowhere with not only women, but just about anything else.

Oh and Al, your Dad's a legend.

Did I? Wasn't my intention - it's been years since I've been on a date with anyone, were I just after sex then I'd have been more active on the dating front.

Oh God, don't give them ideas...

Hmmm - interesting thread. I've not posted until now because I don't really know what sex means to me.

I would have to say that it has meant a couple of different things.

My first time I wasn't exactly keen, but I was going out with this girl from school who I really did like. She wanted to have sex, so we did. It was great.

In that case, it didn't really mean a whole lot to me and seemed far more important to her.

Subsequently, every time with her was about the romance and "togetherness" as well as the physical pleasures.

But ever since "her", sex has never been the same. It's odd, and I can hardly describe it - because of course, it's pleasurable and I love it. But I've never had the same emotional connection so it's really just been a physical thing.

Basically I think my thoughts can be summed up by saying that yes, sex is nice. But I can do without it if it's not the romantic, emotional type.

So what is life like without sex? I'd say it depends on the type of sex you're talking about.

+1

I've only ever had sex with partners I've really cared for. I can't "do" casual sex.

My first girlfriend was 15 and I was 16 when we split up, so no sex there. It took me another 14 years to find the next girlfriend. After 2 rebounds, I went another 6 years before I found my current partner.

When I am in a relationship, I generally have a high sex drive, but when I'm single, it turns off. It sits in the background and nags at me from time to time, "wouldn't it be nice?" But in general I led a fun and exciting life in the times when I didn't have a girlfriend. Life didn't stop, it didn't become boring, it was just different.

I had lots of close friends, many female, but none I was "in love with", who I would want to have sex with.

I'm glad I met Tina, but not because of sex. That is nice, but it is a by-product of being in a relationship. Would the relationship dissolve if we couldn't have sex? No, I don't think so. We love each other and sex is just another expression of our love.

Carbohydrates and sex do not mix.

Actually you have to watch some of the ice creams too, they can sometimes smell a bit odd when they get body heat. Vanilla seems to work oh and any form of liquid chocolate seems to be appreciated...

You can coat anything in that stuff...

Anyways, as for 'chasing', not for me. I've never 'chased', things just either happen or I get approached.

I should say 'got' really, as I've been with my GF for quite some time but I do still get approached. The difference is you react differently to it.

Bratty there are definately people who should not be allowed to breed.

On the otherhand sex is amazing. One day you'll agree with this sentiment. (and yes, its much better with the right person, in a caring loving relationship, when its about more than just the physical IMO)

I agree with that completely

Too late:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lTfdn5x7 ... re=related

Potato sacking.... like tea bagging but on a much bigger scale

Now that lass will need a big mouth.

Oh and Al, your Dad's a legend.



+100

but having said that good sex is wonderful bad sex is a nightmare .
and as far as it goes you are only as good as the person you are with.

Shouldn´t but is, however why shouldn´t the feeling be mutual, there´s nothing seedy or wrong in it, not every relationship needs to be about commitment, as long as both parties know what they´re getting in to.

But women develop these things called feelings in situations like that making them overly complicated because situations changed. Man still wants meaningless but good sex, woman wants love and all the soppy bits