Bit like living with a woman then.

hm, ive tried phoning her, no responce, text but no responce so as Its "sketchy" to walk in her workplace I cant go in so ive lost all contact with her mayaswell give up.

Maybe her phone battery died? Leave it be for a day or so and stop worrying, bratty. Seriously!

If she's working then that's why she can't answer her phone?

don't text or phone too much, she's going to think you are creepy

sound advice there

Bratty!



Remember!

As i said before as long as you go into the bank with a straight forward question that has a solid answer then it's completely fine. My example was asking for her landline/home phone number. It only gets "sketchy" if you ask her a question which either involves her having to think for a while or arrange something since it could potentially take time away from other customers/annoy the bank's manager.

Also, if you already consider yourself to be dating this girl, then what's the worry?

If you're going to give up this easily at just getting a date with this girl, then you're in for a shock when you finally get her. Relationships need work, sometimes hard work and acting all dramatic about it isn't going to help in the long term. Knuckle down, figure out what you want and go get it.

Asking a bit of advice is one thing. Asking other people how to organise or run your love life (and then doing only what they tell you) is a fools errand, you make your choices about your life and go live it, you succeed or fail by your own will and effort; that's what life is all about.

Sorry for the thread revival and walloftext guys, but I have a very, VERY serious relationship problem right now, that I just can't sort out by myself. This is about two girls I know, lets called them Girl A and Girl B for now.

Girl A I have known for about 4 or 5 years, we met in Year 9 and hung out every lunch time with our fairly large group of friends, until she started going to college after year 11. Since then we've done our best to keep in touch: we used to spend hours talking to each other on MSN for a year or so, but that was scuppered when her client refused to update or let her sign in. Since then we have tried to stay in contact over text/Facebook, but it was never quite the same. We had a small get-together at a friends house this weekend, and we started reminiscing about our conversations, as it turns out she stumbled across her chat logs and reread them all recently, prompting me to do likewise last night, then remember what she meant to me and write this post. She was the first girl I felt comfortable being all nerdy in front of, and I haven't been able to go a day without thinking about her for the past 2 years. Dead serious. I think she may have a soft spot for me, but I really cant be sure without asking. Just for comparisons sake, she is staying in our town next year, and lives about a 2 minute walk from my house

Girl B and I met at my cousins birthday party about 9 months ago, she was in my Sixth Form, but is going away to Newcastle University in September. I'm comfortably geeky around her too, and we talk over Facebook, MSN, texts, and pretty much every opportunity we get, which I guess is sort of a-given since we started seeing each other about 3 weeks after the party, and things got rather serious about February time. Trouble is, with her moving across the country, I'm not sure how long we are going to last, especially since I cant drive and she cant afford to keep her car any more. I tried to talk to her about our options few weeks ago, and she didn't seem too keen on the idea of breaking up (don't know why, I'm not that great ), but I just cant see it working right now

The way I see it things will likely pan out in one of these these few ways:

1) I break up with Girl B but stay close friends, ask out Girl A, she says yes, live happily ever after.
2) I stay with Girl B, we get over the distance problem and live happily ever after once she finishes uni. Girl A never finds out how I feel towards her, and I continue to hide my feelings as I have for the past 2 years, or find a way to get over them.
3) I stay with Girl B, but things don't quite work out, then after one-too-many drinks on a night out I get with Girl A but don't call her the following morning, Girl B finds out breaks up with me, I end up alone and kill myself from depression.
4) I break up with Girl B but stay friends, Girl A says no but we stay friends, live rather happily because we are all on good terms and talk often. I find someone new and live happily ever after.

And my personal favourite fantasy-that-will-never-come-true option:
Things work out with Girl B, but I also ask out Girl A anyway. She says yes, Girl B finds out, but then both girls discover they are bi-curious. We all live very happily ever after

I realise there are many more ways things could go (especially in the fantasy section ), but these are the main few that I am considering and will probably happen. Except option 3, that one is in there for worst-case scenario purposes only, I am neither a drunk-predator or a cheater

So tell me forum, what should I do? Have any of you been in a situation like this (I hope for all your sakes that you haven't, its really not nice ), or are there any other options I should be considering? Am I a complete [LIFTED] for going out with a girl when i already had such strong feelings for someone else? I really need help with this

TIA

*EDIT* just to reiterate, i wont be doing anything with Girl A until i know what is happening with Girl B. my wording is pretty bad in places, but just because i typed this rather quickly and didnt have time for proper proof-reading. i should also probably explain that the super-secret-anonymity-names were chosen at random, Girl B will always come first, except alphabetically

Look for girl C.

Edit: I'll try and think of something more useful when I have time to read all of your block of text.

To be honest, if you're with a girl but considering dumping her for another, i think your relationship is doomed. So I'd advise talking to her. Without considering girl A at all.

She deserves to be treated properly and not thrown out.

im not considering breaking up with her purely for Girl A, but i know thats what it sounds like. the only reason i am thinking about any of this is the difficulty of getting to see her regularly once she leaves for uni. she means far too much to me and she doesnt deserve to be thrown out like that. id only even consider Girl A if things with Girl B really werent going to work out, or if we decided that ending it before she goes was for the best



sorry about that. so much to say, so little appropriate places to start a new paragraph

+1, well not doomed, but perhaps rocky...

I've done long distance (as in 7 hours and £60 away), it wasn't fun, but I knew we were solid.
I know of others who have had loves, gone to uni and it all fall apart...I have also seen the relationships survive (though this seems less common in my experience).

My feeling is option 1, but then it's hard to say without actually being there...

I've been in a 10k miles relationship. It can work if you're pretty serious, depends how much commitment you have. I still advise you to go talk to your girl face to face

tried that already, got as far as saying "so, what are we going to do next year?" before she broke down in tears. then i broke down in tears. this is what i meant by "[trying] to talk to her" and her "not being too keen on... breaking up" i realise how that sounds now, should've worded it better

So perhaps she's not looking forward to it either? Having said that, if Girl A can come from absolutely nowhere and cause such an upset somethings rocky. But bear in mind that you managed fine without Girl A for a good long while.