Sad news. I'm really not looking forward to when one of my parents goes. It'll be really hard on the one left behind

Sorry to hear about your dad, my condolences.

As said on Twitter I was very sorry to hear this, and my condolences go to you and your family.

Having watched both of my parents lose the fight against cancer, I can say through experience that any sadness you may be feeling will subside and the happy memories will return.

^ This is what I found with my dad, it does take time though. I was worried that it was happening with my mum as well but she's had an op to remove an ovarian cyst and the tests came back clear this evening, thankfully.

In the beginning it can be very painful thinking of a parent when you lose them, I've never known any other sorrow like it, but as time goes on you soon you look forward to the times when they enter your thoughts.

For now though rest your head on the shoulders of those closest.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

my most heartfelt thoughts
i and the wife have lost both sets of parents
its never easy but time is a great healer ...

Sorry to hear that Caz.

Cancer is a real bitch. I sat next to my mother as she died, 28 days after diagnosis, of this terrible disease only 4 years ago.

I hope you're coming to terms with things Caz and coping with your loss.

I looked at your pics. You must have been very proud of your dad. I'm sure he would have been equally proud of you.

Take care.

I'm rubbish with stuff like this and I never know what to say, but I'm sorry to hear about it Caz.

Sorry to hear that Caz, our thoughts are with you and your family x

Yes, very sorry to hear your bad news - my thoughts are with you and your family. I've only ever lost one person close to me, my Gran, and that was over 11 years ago - I still miss her today, but you remember the good times and it's a small comfort. I don't think you ever forget the people close to you, it's just you have other things to concentrate on day to day. Hope you're all coping as best you can in these times.


You know where we are...

It's not a competition, but that comment made me think of who I've "lost".

Quite frankly, I lost two grandfathers and a great grandmother in my lifetime and I really wasn't bothered at all. I feel slightly guilty about that, but the truth is I didn't know my dad's dad very well and I was quite young when he went. The other two were more recent, but I was far more concerned about the impact on my mother than anything else. I did not like either of them at all, but they were my mother's dad and her granny.

I was far more effected when someone I only knew fairly casually at school over 20 years ago was killed in the twin towers, or the twice that someone I was quite close to committed suicide years after I'd lost touch with them.

The most recent death that made me really sad was when my best friend's grandmother died - I'd only met her a few times, but she was an absolutely great life. She is missed by a lot of people, and she'll live on for many years in their memories. It's very sad that she's gone, but the love for her is still here.

Then there's a guy a few of you on here will remember from the old place who I only met the one time IRL, but still shed more tears over than any of my own kin.

Thank you all.

The funeral was on Friday and it went well.

For all of you saying I don't know what I'll do when they go - you will cope. Death is part of life and we are all going to loose our parents. Yes it is upsetting and the grief will last for years and hit you unexpectedly but you just get on with it. Make the most of your parents NOW as you never know what might happen in the future and don't put off a visit!

I was very lucky to be there when Dad went and although we didn't talk I feel he took some comfort in having me and my step Mum, and the dog Toby, with him.

C

Yes the loss of parents is something that I have to face one day. Not sure how well I will do.