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Fogmeister
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:35 pm Posts: 6580 Location: Getting there
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What are people's views? There is someone at work I quite like and in considering asking her for dinner or something but not sure if it's a done thing.
What are people's views?
Obviously I'm completely fine if I asked and she said no. Just not sure if I should ask.
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 12:51 pm |
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TheFrenchun
Officially Mrs saspro
Joined: Wed Jan 06, 2010 7:55 pm Posts: 4955 Location: on the naughty step
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Is she in your team or just works in the same office? If it's someone you have to work closely with everyday that'd be a no I think. If you barely interact with her at work probably fine?
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 12:55 pm |
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oceanicitl
Official forum cat lady
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 8:04 am Posts: 11039 Location: London
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How would you cope with the situation if you broke up? I dated someone at work for about a year and it was a bit weird when we split.
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 12:59 pm |
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ProfessorF
What's a life?
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 7:56 pm Posts: 12030
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My advice is: Don't. Just been friend zoned by a girl at work that I'm still completely into after she started dating someone else from work. So we've gone from being as thick as thieves to really not speaking and having awkward silences instead. She's also taking up the 0.5 half of my tech contract. So we'll be crossing paths all the time. It's going to be an absolute hoot, let me tell you.
Of course, IANAL, YMMV, read instructions before assembly.
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 1:11 pm |
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John_Vella
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 7:55 am Posts: 7935 Location: Manchester.
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Same thing happened to me about a million years ago. Luckily, the job market at the time was still good enough that I could walk away and find alternative employment. Having said that, I'd still go ahead and ask her. As a wise man once said "It's better to have shagged and... no, that's not right... erm... yeah!"
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 1:16 pm |
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pcernie
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Joined: Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:30 pm Posts: 45931 Location: Belfast
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 1:22 pm |
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TheFrenchun
Officially Mrs saspro
Joined: Wed Jan 06, 2010 7:55 pm Posts: 4955 Location: on the naughty step
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Are you trying to say : " do not dip your pen in the office's inkpot?"
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 1:27 pm |
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pcernie
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Joined: Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:30 pm Posts: 45931 Location: Belfast
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'Her? She's the office inkpot...'
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 1:34 pm |
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hifidelity2
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 1:03 pm Posts: 5041 Location: London
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finlay666
Spends far too much time on here
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 9:40 pm Posts: 4876 Location: Newcastle
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As said, if the place is big enough and you wouldn't be constantly in close proximity it'd probably be fine (not sure if some places have a disclosure policy in place though if you're on different levels of the ladder) For me though.... Don't defecate where you eat  hardly helps it's such a small office
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 3:24 pm |
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big_D
What's a life?
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 8:25 pm Posts: 10691 Location: Bramsche
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I wouldn't do it.
One of my previous bosses did it, ended up marrying the woman. But when he asked her out, he told her, that if they went out together, she would have to find another contract...
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 4:50 pm |
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leeds_manc
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 8:19 pm Posts: 5071 Location: Manchester
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Don't screw the crew, as I believe the saying is.
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 5:13 pm |
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okenobi
Spends far too much time on here
Joined: Thu Apr 23, 2009 6:59 pm Posts: 4932 Location: Sestriere, Piemonte, Italia
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First time I did it: She was married We both had to leave our jobs She ended up divorced (with me as adulterer on court paperwork) I ended up heartbroken and destroyed for years afterwards 2nd time I did it: She slept with my roomate when wasted one night and then whilst still pissed and with him in her bed came to wake me up and tell me she liked me. We nearly killed each other for a couple months We're both very much in love and we still work together Prof's scenario is one I've encountered too many times. What have you got to lose?? Only your dignity and your job, hardly the be all and end all 
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 6:33 pm |
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Spreadie
I haven't seen my friends in so long
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2009 6:06 pm Posts: 6355 Location: IoW
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Meh, post a pic and we'll vote on whether it's worth the risk. 
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Wed Aug 20, 2014 6:57 pm |
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TheFrenchun
Officially Mrs saspro
Joined: Wed Jan 06, 2010 7:55 pm Posts: 4955 Location: on the naughty step
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Test the waters? If you really think it's worth it, just say [LIFTED] it  Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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